What is a cougar? A woman wishing to live vicariously through younger men? A woman that wears animal print clothing wherever she goes? A mountain lion to be feared? If you’re a cougar, you know that none of the above is even remotely true. You know that a cougar is a woman that with wisdom that knows how to get the most out of relationships.
When you spend the day at the spa, be sure not to listen to your gal pals that tell you that it’s time to grow up and stop dating younger men. They’re stuck in the conventional thought that everyone should date someone within 18 months of their own age. Why 18 months? No one really knows, but it’s what everyone thinks, except the truly wise women. Instead of arguing with your girlfriends about how wrong they are and how right you are, accept that for whatever reason, they will never be as wise as you. Take it as an indication of how unique you truly are and how great your intelligence really is.
Let your experiences as a cougar speak for themselves. When you get a pedicure with your best bud and she’s complaining about how her date fell asleep during the movie for the fourth time in a row, try to contain your smiles and giggles, offer your support and mention how you had an exciting, adventurous date last weekend with your younger man. It won’t take long for your friends to see how wise you are. Soon enough, they’ll quit their negative talk and might even go out on the prowl for younger men of their own! Try not to say, “I told you so!” too much as they follow in your footsteps. Just rest assured that you, a cougar, are a woman with wisdom!
In a world where divorce has grown to a household term, you’re probably wondering how older women with younger men can have meaningful, lasting relationships. Really, it’s quite simple: be yourself. Be the confident, mature, experienced, career-driven, no-nonsense woman that you are. These are the qualities that younger men that are looking for older women are attracted to. These men are tired of dating women that want to be taken care of. They seek companionship of an equal partner and someone to talk to and spend time with.
Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Though older women dating younger men are typically full of vitality and energy, it’s okay that you can’t pull all-nighters like you did in college or drink a case of beer in a sitting. Your date is attracted to you, an older woman, because of you are wise enough to know that all-nighters are for the birds and that drinking until your blood turns to alcohol is just plain stupid. Your date is tired of the immaturity of his peers and desperately wants your mature companionship. Acting like a stoned teenager might make you “cool” for a date or two, but it’s not what your partner wants and it surely isn’t the way to pave a road to a long lasting relationship.
Forget stereotypes. When your friends and family learn of your cougar lifestyle, they’ll likely try to peg you into a stereotypical role and tell you what a cougar is and how you should act. Remember, however, that your life isn’t a rendition of The Graduate. No matter what anyone says, there’s no point to sipping martinis like Mrs. Robinson, unless you want to, that is. Older women with younger men don’t all fit into the same mold. Just enjoy yourself and your date will enjoy you.